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Challenging my need for male validation by owning my desire

Binge-worthy TV shows about polyamory

Binge-worthy TV shows about polyamory

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Remembering Gordy from Big Boys

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Parallel, garden party and kitchen table polyamory: what’s the difference?

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Why (and how) we created ENM Fam London

I chat with Jax Griffith, one of my fellow ENM Fam London co-founders, about the meeting that started it all and what we think made this event so popular.

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Understanding asexuality with Ace Dad Advice

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Why I am always solo, no matter what my relationship status is

I remember in 2015 when Brighton-based author Sophie Tanner married herself in...

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How Maya from PEN15 helped to heal my teen weirdo

When Hulu’s cringe comedy PEN15 came out in 2019, I wasn’t really...

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Sliding into DMs 101: 5 essentials you’re forgetting

You usually get just one shot at sliding into someone’s...

Summer vibes

We're like going places, duh

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Your queer Edinburgh Fringe guide

Have you always wanted to visit Edinburgh Fringe but never been sure how to do it or what...

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Barcelona Pride: everything you need to know

Considered to be the biggest LGBT+ Pride celebration in the Mediterranean, with over 200,000 people taking part in...

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Fabulous four-day Cornwall itinerary by train

It’s fair to say that Cornwall is one of the most incredible corners of the UK – beautiful...

Rome if you want to...

Take Pride

Not gay as in happy

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Why Patsy & Eddy are the ultimate travel style icons

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Fabulous festivals

My 10 best moments of Glastonbury 2016!

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11 Fabulous things to do in Stockholm

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Thank U, Next: how to deal with heartbreak

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Barcelona Pride: everything you need to know

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Fabulous four-day Cornwall itinerary by train

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Lifting the veil on the world of drag

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Can women be drag queens? You bet we can

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Review: The Baxter Hostel Edinburgh

The Baxter Hostel in Edinburgh is a boutique ‘poshtel’ in the centre...

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Review: Generator Hostel Madrid

The recently opened Generator Hostel Madrid is a modern hostel located just...

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Take Pride

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Meet Teen Angst, London’s pop-punk drag king

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Best relationship and polyamory books for navigating non-monogamy

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What drag is really about

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Review: Tattva Design Hostel Porto

Hostels have changed

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Review: The Baxter Hostel Edinburgh

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Review: Generator Hostel Madrid

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Review: The Yellow Hostel Rome

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Review: Generator Hostel Dublin

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Thank U, Next: how to deal with heartbreak

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Remembering Gordy from Big Boys

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I'm taking a break from social media ✨ Not beca

I'm taking a break from social media ✨

Not because my mental health is bad - but because it's good ☺️

Now feels like a great time for me to be proactive about having a lovely long break 🌞

I'm also going through a joyful period of change in my life and want to give myself the opportunity to process everything away from here 🧘

So, I'll probably be gone for the rest of the summer. Might be shorter, could be longer 🤷

I'll still be writing articles and doing interviews on my blog, so if you're curious to keep seeing what I create, you can always subscribe for email updates at minkaguides.com/subscribe (link in bio) 💕

In the meantime, let's all get out there and live our beautiful lives if it feels safe for us to do so. Question norms, contribute to our communities, and be kind to strangers - especially the ones who are different to us 🤗

See y'all soon 😘

📷: @bladehuntkiss

To celebrate Pride Month, I chatted with Amanda fr

To celebrate Pride Month, I chatted with Amanda from @queercompassionatealignment about how to create a self-love practice and why it's especially important for people in the LGBTQ+ communities 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍🌈

We talk tarot, affirmations and learning the importance of rest 💞

Self-love has suddenly become my primary focus for this year and I am reaping the benefits (joy! reduced anxiety! personal insights!) from centring myself with this daily practice 🧘

So, please, watch this if you feel like your life could be enhanced by it too. And enjoy watching me try and avoid that pesky Barcelona sunshine as it tries to invade my filming space 🌞

To read a full transcript of this interview, click the link in my bio ☝️

Had a seriously Sound time 🥳 Big ups to @mayat

Had a seriously Sound time 🥳

Big ups to @mayathings_ for Friday shenanigans and @theydefined for Saturday adventures ✌️ Made my @primavera_sound amazing ✨

📷 by ultimate Insta husband, @mayathings_

⭐ New feature alert ⭐ Each month, I'll now be

⭐ New feature alert ⭐

Each month, I'll now be sharing a conversation with you that I'm really interested to have. Whether it's with someone who is creating awesome things or someone who has expertise in an area where I have big questions.

And, I am so delighted that my guest for this month is none other than drag king, @t33n_angst 😍

Teen Angst is a finalist in Europe's biggest drag king competition @manupldn, which is happening next week!

We chat all things pop-punk, princes and @pxssyliquor 😉

Features shout outs to @thegloryldn, @markanthony.dragking, @don1birmingham, @prinxchiyo, @prinxsilver, @drcoxthegenitalpox, @charlieprobablywood, @butchpleaselondon, @bigdykeenergyldn, @theclaphamgrand and @margateartsclub 🥳

To read the full transcript of this video and find links for everything we discuss, click the blog link in my bio ☝️

Scream if you wanna go faster 🤑 Incredible sho

Scream if you wanna go faster 🤑

Incredible shot by @sdaly82 of me backstage at the @sink_the_pink Farewell Ball last month 💕

How do you say goodbye to something that has defin

How do you say goodbye to something that has defined the past nine years of your life? 😭

I first started going to @sink_the_pink at the @bgwmc in 2013, back when sweat used to drip from the roof and you had to party in swimwear as it was too hot to wear anything else 🔥

I feel blessed that @glynfussell , @missamyzing, @jonokitchens and the rest of the STP fam welcomed me into their crew so quickly. It has given me so much over the years, including a space to explore my drag and dance my ass off on stage till dawn (still one of my favourite things to do) 👯‍♀️

It's hard to believe that we've gone from a couple of hundred people in a working men's club to 5,000 people in @printworkslondon tonight 🤯 A big part of that has to do with the powerhouse that is @jamietagg joining forces with Glyn and Amy, but also has an enormous amount to do with the people who have loved this club as much as we have. Who have turned up religiously and made the space so creative, queer and colourful 🌈

It's a shame we all got too old to do Proud Mary anymore 👵 but hopefully there are baby queers out there, ready to start their own club nights. We're all ready for the next generation to come through 🙏

So, goodbye Sink The Pink. Thanks for the wild ride. It's been an unforgettable experience (even if there are some nights I can't quite remember) 🎢✨🤗😘

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