When we first went into lockdown, I thought we’d all come bursting out of it with nothing short of complete debauchery. Flash forward five months and I’m just happy if someone feels comfortable to hold my hand. Dating during a…
Last year I emerged from a 10+ year relationship and suddenly discovered how much the dating scene had changed. Back in 2008, there was no Tinder. Grindr had only just been launched and dating sites still had a whiff of…
If you’re new to non-monogamy, one of the things that’s hard to wrap your head around is all the jargon that doesn’t exist in monocentric relationships. When it comes to relationship anarchy vs solo polyamory, you’ll often see them referred…
While listening to the How To Fail podcast (Season 8, Episode 2) earlier this month, I started thinking about the purpose of New Relationship Energy (NRE). Journalist Elizabeth Day was discussing relationships with writer and comedian Samantha Irby when they both realised…
If you’re beginning to explore the wonderful queer world of polyamorous London, then here’s my guide to all the dating apps, events, podcasts and parties that you’ll probably want to know about. I’ve been active within London’s polyamorous community for…
Like a lot of people new to polyamory, I read The Ethical Slut once and figured I knew everything there was to know. It took me a couple of confusing and painful years to realise I was pretty much flying blind and…
2020 update: I wrote this piece for International Womxn’s Day in 2018 because I was tired of being told my drag wasn’t valid. Amazingly, since then over 25,000 people have Googled ‘can women be drag queens’ and ended up reading this blog post! This…
Whatever your tastes and quirks, there is something to stimulate everyone’s desires in London. From art deco swimming spots and warm oil play parties to naked men reciting stories and practising yoga, this city is truly a treat for the…
For many people, the idea of spending Christmas alone sounds like the most tragic thing in the world. But trust me, it actually can be quite fabulous. In fact, I’ve chosen to be alone of Christmas Day three times in…
