Polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships… there are many terms used to describe relationship models that fit under the non-monogamy umbrella. I often hear them thrown around as if they’re interchangeable but it’s important to know that there are some key…
A few years ago, I’d just finished lipsyncing to Shout Out to My Ex at The Royal Vauxhall Tavern when a baby queer came up to me and told me that my performance was so good because they could tell I’d had…
You probably don’t realise it but non-monogamy is rife in TV dramas. Unfortunately, it’s the unethical kind (also known as cheating). When it comes to ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, it’s rare to discover a TV show that not only reflects…
When we first went into lockdown, I thought we’d all come bursting out of it with nothing short of complete debauchery. Flash forward five months and I’m just happy if someone feels comfortable to hold my hand. Dating during a…
Last year I emerged from a 10+ year relationship and suddenly discovered how much the dating scene had changed. Back in 2008, there was no Tinder. Grindr had only just been launched and dating sites still had a whiff of…
If you’re new to non-monogamy, one of the things that’s hard to wrap your head around is all the jargon that doesn’t exist in monocentric relationships. When it comes to relationship anarchy vs solo polyamory, you’ll often see them referred…
While listening to the How To Fail podcast (Season 8, Episode 2) earlier this month, I started thinking about the purpose of New Relationship Energy (NRE). Journalist Elizabeth Day was discussing relationships with writer and comedian Samantha Irby when they both realised…
If you’re beginning to explore the wonderful queer world of polyamorous London, then here’s my guide to all the dating apps, events, podcasts and parties that you’ll probably want to know about. I’ve been active within London’s polyamorous community for…
Like a lot of people new to polyamory, I read The Ethical Slut once and figured I knew everything there was to know. It took me a couple of confusing and painful years to realise I was pretty much flying blind and…
