One of the most important things I’ve learnt while exploring ethical non-monogamy is that support is out there. Weirdly, when I began this journey I thought there wouldn’t be much in the way of resources, advice or even positive representation.…
One of the easiest and most transparent ways to meet other non-monogamous people is online. While there sadly aren’t many great polyamorous dating sites currently, there’s a range of apps that allow you to be very upfront about your relationships.…
As someone who regularly writes about polyamory, you could easily assume I’m a polyevangelist. You know the type: smug, thinks their relationship model is the answer to the world’s romantic/sexual problems, talks about it like they’re trying to convert you. I…
Polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships… there are many terms used to describe relationship models that fit under the non-monogamy umbrella. I often hear them thrown around as if they’re interchangeable but it’s important to know that there are some key…
A few years ago, I’d just finished lipsyncing to Shout Out to My Ex at The Royal Vauxhall Tavern when a baby queer came up to me and told me that my performance was so good because they could tell I’d had…
You probably don’t realise it but non-monogamy is rife in TV dramas. Unfortunately, it’s the unethical kind (also known as cheating). When it comes to ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, it’s rare to discover a TV show that not only reflects…
When I came across the term ‘skoliosexual’ last year, I was pretty excited. As someone who is predominantly attracted to people who are in some way gender non-conforming, it felt like for the first time in my queer little life…
When we first went into lockdown, I thought we’d all come bursting out of it with nothing short of complete debauchery. Flash forward five months and I’m just happy if someone feels comfortable to hold my hand. Dating during a…
Last year I emerged from a 10+ year relationship and suddenly discovered how much the dating scene had changed. Back in 2008, there was no Tinder. Grindr had only just been launched and dating sites still had a whiff of…
